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No, Buddhism doesn't ask you to stop loving your family…
June 28th, 2012 (January 24th, 2013)
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No, Buddhism doesn't ask you to stop loving your family…

It only questions your clinging, and its cohort of undesirable side effects:
the fear of personal loss (up to the fear of losing "oneself" ),
the pointless tightness that appears the day your children leave the nest, when you should instead be proud and supportive,
the jealousy the day your partner is generous to the world and not just to you,
the expectations and fears based on habits and beliefs, based on previous subjective experiences and missing what's different this time, day after day, moment after moment,
the falsely-reassuring thought that you "know" your partner and can "get away with" some action or other you vowed not to do ("she will not be pleased but she will forgive me and I really want to do so, it'll make me so happy"),
the interpretation that what annoys you from your partner is "evidently" directed against you,
etc.

Loving without clinging is possible. 'Loving' and 'clinging' are two different words; you wouldn't use 'loving' every time you use 'clinging' so they really mean different things too. Loving without clinging is possible.

[from more on " #Buddhism  in today's real lay world": http://gplus.wallez.name/24JpvDSsn76]

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