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Punk is dead! Long live punk!
March 20th, 2013
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Punk is dead! Long live punk!

In relation to the "goth Alexander McQueen" dress she wore for the Oscars in 2002, Gwyneth Paltrow confided, in her blog goop, that "There were a few issues; I still love the dress itself but I should have worn a bra and I should have just had simple beachy hair and less makeup. Then, it would have worked as I wanted it to - a little bit of punk at the Oscars."

Well, it would not have been "a little bit of punk"… It would just have been "politically-correct prude-proof" and basically would have fit with the expectations of the critics.
There's no "half-punk half-prude"…

Does it matter? Since when I am talking about fashion?

It matters! One does not need to show much flesh to be beautiful (as shown by the 2012 white dress, same actress)… but if you go for punk, go for it! And just ignore the nay-sayers! Do not give in to the (pro-burqa) "women are equal BUT should be covered and well-behaved and modest" (neither on the spot, nor 10 years later)!

Women are equal.

That means it's no big deal to make a fashion "faux-pas" (whatever!),
and it's okay to show your body if you feel like it!

Acceptance of the idea of "covered, modest, etc." is the acceptance of oppression by judgement from others (men or women)! Never regret a look you liked, ex-post, because of the judgement of others!


And yes, it's okay to have an opinion about the punk fashion choice. Everybody has opinions. What is not okay is thinking that it's okay to 'shame' Gwyneth for it. Does it matter? Yes, it does. Because such judgements are not 'spontaneously' given to Gwyneth only.

So next time you feel like telling someone off for their look (e.g. commenting that it is 'inappropriate'), look at your expectations and at your self-agrandissement associated to the sense of entitlement such a dictat requires!

Women are equal.
Whoever she is (public figure, friend, sister, partner, daughter…), her opinion is worth yours, whoever you are. Support her, free her, don't lock her up with your judgement! [and please don't use so-called 'morality' to abuse others with your judgement (e.g. misusing the third precept as an excuse). Morality is for you as a guide, not for you to judge others!]


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